Have you or your spouse said, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you”?
When I meet clients, often I hear that the person who had fallen out of love still cares deeply and definitely doesn’t want to cause pain to his or her partner, but they wanted to end the relationship. The good news is that if you still do care, it is possible to get back in love. It is possible to restore passion to your relationship.
You Still Care,You Don’t Want to End the Relationship
No infatuation lasts forever, and the hormonal high of your initial period together will not return permanently, but you can get back in love. You can restore love and excitement in your marriage.
Moving from “Not In Love Anymore” to “Back In Love”
Sometimes, a couple finds that they are operating a partnership. Running a household together. Raising children. Making sure that the bills are paid. But we want more. We want partnership, but we also want passion.
Am I in a business relationship with my spouse or a love affair?
You can fall back in love when you nurture the feelings of respect that you have for each other, and add layers of affection, passion and excitement. Infatuation can be almost effortless, but this is rarely the case for lasting love. When you put effort in getting back in love you can be rewarded with the most amazing relationship, with sweet pleasure that can extend over a lifetime.
Would you do battle to protect your spouse?
Some of what you have to do to get back in love is not easy. It may not be as dramatic as climbing the tallest mountain, but the rewards will be greater. Here is some of what you will learn in counseling with Dr. Mann on your path back to being in love:
- Accept and respect your partner. Your partner has faults (and so do you), but it’s okay to be less than perfect.
- Compromise. Sometimes, you will do things that you wouldn’t want to do otherwise.
- Be fair.
- Depend on each other to provide love, support, and empathy.
- Nurture passion. In your relationship, passion will wax and wane. You will learn to welcome passion, nurture passion, and cultivate passion.
- Enjoy your sexual relationship. Sometimes it will be good enough. Sometimes it will be really good. And sometimes it will be wow.
Put intimacy back in your relationship
In my practice, I have helped couples emerge from very difficult starting points to relationships with more intimacy and trust than they thought possible.
In counseling you will learn the skills that you and your partner need to reignite the sparks that brought you together in the first place, while building a lasting platform for a lifetime of pleasure, closeness, belonging, happiness, and togetherness.
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If you are in a relationship now and need help, please reach out. I would love to help. Just call or fill out the contact form and click Send. You can be happy!