Seek professional help
Most married couples, including couples where one or both have ADD or ADHD, plan to be married forever. Don’t allow little problems to go unresolved and become bigger problems. Small problems, after being ignored, can seem insurmountable.
Get professional help before it’s too late. In counseling, Dr. Mann can teach you communication skills and techniques to thrive.
She never hears me!
If your spouse has ADD or ADHD, listening may be difficult for him or her. The good news is that, with practice, your spouse can improve his or her listening skills.
A simple exercise to try at home
Here is a simple exercise. In a quiet place, let your spouse talk for five minutes. Make eye contact. Lean toward him. After listening, summarize what he said. Your spouse will be delighted that you listened! After the exchange, it’s your turn. Propose something that you want to do. For example, you might suggest, “Would you mind babysitting while I go to the gym?”
ADD is not a guarantee for a failed relationship. You don’t have to take “his ADD is destroying our marriage” as a fait accompli.
ADD is a challenge in relationships
Does your partner rely on you for order and structure at home? Do you feel like the only adult in your relationship? Individuals with ADD or ADHD often suffer from a lack of organizational skills or a lack of follow-through. This can be a cause of multiple fights, frustration, and even divorce. Don’t let ADD affect your relationship. You can help him take control of his ADD.
If you are the spouse with ADD, you may have noticed that some of your natural behaviors cause tension between you and your significant other. In fact, the very same tendencies that help you succeed at work, such as spontaneity and hyperfocus, can be killing your relationship.
Stop ADD from affecting your relationship
The challenges of being in a relationship are multiplied when your spouse has ADD. How many of the tense issues in your relationship can be attributed to your partner’s ADD?
Counseling can help you and your spouse learn how ADD affects your life together. You can improve your relationship. Together with Dr. Mann, you can work on creating healthy habits and routines that can strengthen your relationship. You and your partner can build a closer relationship by reconnecting and finding joy in your relationship together.
A partner with ADD has a lot to give. Counseling can help you harness your energy to create a closer, better relationship. Online counseling and appointments in person are available in New Jersey and Maine. To schedule a consultation, call now, or just fill out the form and click Send.