I feel like a fool that I didn’t guess what was going on.
I don’t know if I can get past it.
How can I trust him/her again?
Can I learn to trust after betrayal and infidelity?
Finding out that your partner has been having an affair, sexual and/or emotional, is a traumatic event. Discovering that your partner is regularly texting or messaging with an ex can also be a breach of trust.
Infidelity Destroys Trust
Shock, helplessness, anger, disgust, and sadness are normal reactions. Your feelings may overwhelm you and change from day to day and from moment to moment.
Beyond the turmoil caused by betrayal, infidelity damages or even destroys the trust in a relationship.
Where Do We Go From Here?
One or both of you may feel confused about what to do next. In counseling will help you take the next step in a warm and safe environment.
- I can show you ways of rebuilding trust
- How to discuss the affair without either one of you losing it
- Discover how to effectively communicate with each other
- Looking at the relationship with complete honesty
- Ways of motivating your partner to listen and understand your needs
- Explore how you can trust your partner again
The process of rebuilding trust, commitment and empathy can make a relationship stronger.
It is possible to rebuild trust and intimacy after an affair
Learning to openly examine all aspects of the relationship and identifying long-standing difficulties can result in greater intimacy. Often couples who have successfully worked through the hurt and anger acknowledge that the crisis challenged them to create a more satisfying relationship.
Help is Available
Dr. Dahlia Mann has a doctorate in clinical psychology and is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) in Portland, Maine and New Jersey. She also offers online therapy. Through therapy with Dr. Mann, you can learn how to share your feelings more effectively, and how to listen to each other. You will be able to enjoy each other with infecting the present moment with old hurts. We will work together and at times individually. You may want to first come in alone to clarify your own feelings.
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