Everyone knows that long-distance relationships are hard to maintain at the best of times. It’s also true that ‘commuter marriages‘ are becoming more and more common in today’s economy. Children can make commuter marriages even more difficult of course.
The challenge of raising children in a commuter marriage
There’s no doubt that trying to juggle the challenges of living separately and bringing up children is extremely difficult. If this struggle is relatable to you, here are some tips to make things easier.
- In addition to quality time with the kids, set aside couple time as well. A commuter marriage usually means one partner is only present on weekends while the other is with the children full time. Keeping your time limits in mind, be sure to arrange a date night once in a while without the children. Long distant relationships require special care with or without children.
- Respect the fact that you have limited time together and don’t try to fit too much into your schedule. Remember that weekends are for relaxing and rejuvenating. Packing your weekend with too many activities can be draining for both you and your partner.
- Appreciate that it’s hard for both of you and understand that your partner does not leave behind the worries and stresses of family life once he/she walks out the door. Sometimes, stresses and worries can actually be greater for the spouse who is away. They are missing the comforts of home. They are missing you and the kids.
What if we are having difficulties?
Couples therapy is often a very effective way to strengthen a relationship. Unfortunately, often those who could benefit the most from couples and family therapy cannot find the time for it.
The problem can be compounded if you have limited time to spend together.
You likely do not want to spend a precious hour in a therapist’s office, not to mention the time it takes to get there and back. Fortunately, we live in a time where communication over distances is easier than ever. Online therapy is now an option.
Whether one of you is away on a business trip or on the road, an oline counseling session will make it possible to connect.
Couples counseling can resolve ongoing disputes and assist in healthy communication. A trained therapist can get to the deeper issues and help you work together to build an even stronger relationship during a difficult situation.
Online couples counseling with Dr. Dahlia Mann
Dr. Dahlia Mann, MFT has decades of experience helping couples to stop arguing, build trust, restore intimacy, and find the lost freshness in their relationships. To find out more about your options for online couples counseling get in touch today. You can call or fill out the contact form.