You already know that life creates difficulties and challenges that affect you everywhere, including in your relationships. Stress in marriage, stress in relationships, is inherent to being a couple.
Psychologists refer to difficulties that threaten your relationship as marital stressors. A marital stressor is an influence, circumstance or event that challenges or threatens a marriage.
Some common causes of stress in marriage and relationships
Common causes of stress include money troubles, difficulties finding or keeping a job, intimacy issues, infidelity, parenting, and clashes with in-laws. All of these causes of stress have been around for as long as there has been marriage!
Stress can trigger outright tension and conflict. More insidiously, stress can subtly drive a wedge between you and your spouse, gradually pushing you apart with little obvious animosity.
Modern Life Compounds Traditional Struggles
Today’s world introduces new stressors, and new stress in marriage and relationships.
The frantic pace of modern business, with overbooked Super Moms, and Dads with 24 hour work cycles, can add toxic doses of stress to any relationship.
How much time do you have to relax with each other?
How many of your recreation activities are highly programmed and how many are just fun?
How much of your social life is just fun and quality time with each other?
Couples now work a combined average of 63 hours a week, up from just 52.5 in 1970.
Georgetown University Law Center.
With you and your partner working so many hours, is it any wonder that home time suffers? That couple time just gets washed away?
“It’s a function of what is scheduled and to whom we feel accountable for our time. We feel accountable to our children and the commitments we have made to and for them. We feel accountable to the book club we promised to attend monthly, to the religious education committee we joined, and to the fund-raising committee of the PTA. But most of us do not feel accountable to have face-to-face time alone with our mate, because we never schedule it”
From the book Take Back Your Marriage
Electronic distractions add to the stress
Being 24/7 on-line distracts and further erodes the time and attention that we devote to our spouse. “Couple time” is often invaded by the beep of your smartphone and tablet. Often, couples communicate about parenting and houselhold chores by messaging and email, even further diminishing the opportunities for the kind of sweet and intimate contact that face-to-face or even phone contact affords.
Learn to Control Stress Improve Your Relationship
Are stressors in your life out of control? Reach out to Dr. Mann for help in learning how to manage stress in marriage and relationships for a better future. Call today, or fill out the contact form and click Send.